Whether you are facing a loved-one’s illness, an end of a relationship, or a compromise of your own health, we all experience heart-wrenching, life-changing feelings at some point. Loss is an unfortunate aspect of life. Although we all deal with suffering differently, one raw element is constant: it intensely hurts!
Research indicates there are healthier ways to navigate the stress and heartache that accompanies suffering.
According to Edward T. Creagan, MD of the Mayo Clinic, you can Ease the Healing Process of Grief:
Understand that grief is normal. Grief is normal… It’s also normal to be surprised by the intensity of your grief.
Allow yourself to mourn. Mourning is the outward or public expression of grief, a means of sharing grief with people who also are grieving or who want to support you. Religious rituals, cultural traditions and personal beliefs often shape how we mourn. Whatever form it takes, mourning is a critical process that can help you lessen the intensity of grief and help you adapt to your loss.
Look to others for support. It’s not uncommon to feel alone in your grief or want to avoid others. However, the support of family members, friends or a spiritual leader is often essential. Let people know when you need someone to listen, and be open to their offers of company.
Take care of yourself. Grief commonly results in disrupted sleep, a loss of appetite and a lack of interest in everyday tasks – all factors that can affect your health and well-being. Be mindful of your health and daily habits. Try to get adequate sleep, eat a healthy diet, and exercise regularly. You might find that including a friend in meals or exercise routines can keep you motivated (social-distancing, of course!).
Don’t make major decisions. Grief might cloud your ability to make sound decisions. If you must make decisions right away, seek input from a trusted family member… friend, or counselor!
Remember that grief is unpredictable. Grief doesn’t move along a predictable path or at a fixed pace. The overwhelming grief following loss will become more of a cycle. Over time grief can become more subdued or may feel less constant, as if it’s moved into the background of your emotions. You may also find yourself caught off guard by a moment of profound grief after a long time.
Grief is as unique as our own circumstances. This situation will gradually become an integrated part of how you see yourself as a whole person. Please spend the time and energy you need to endure the sorrow as healthily as possible.
“There are all these moments you think you won’t survive.
And then, you survive.” – David Levitman