Know someone who always brightens your day, makes you smile, and has that genuinely happy, contagious attitude? This person radiates a positive attitude and somehow always makes you feel joyful and full of energy. We all know someone who possesses this quality!
Think about this person for a minute. What do they do that allows them to positively impact your life? Specifically, what behaviors do they display that create the magic which makes you thoroughly enjoy their presence? Likely, it is not merely one behavior.
It is highly probable that irresistible people possess many admirable qualities. Importantly, according to Dr. Travis Bradberry, these traits are easily adoptable because they come from within. Irresistible people did not get that way by having lots of money, good looks, or even a certain social standing. They are irresistible because they follow a few simple rules:
Treat EVERYONE with respect. Manners and respect are key distinguishable factors between extremely likeable people and those who are not so likeable. Irresistible people show the utmost respect to anyone they interact with, whether it be an important client or the busboy cleaning their table at a restaurant. Those in your presence will take note of how you treat others, and when we show respect to all, it shows that we believe we are no better than anyone else.
Follow the Platinum Rule. Many of us have heard of the Golden Rule – treat others as you want to be treated. However, maybe not everyone wants to be treated the same as we do. While one person loves public recognition, another loathes being the center of attention. The Platinum Rule is to treat others as they want to be treated. This irresistible trait demonstrates respect for individual differences and considers specific comfort levels.
Ditch the small talk. No real connection was ever formed by using small talk. Irresistible people always seek a connection and engage on a personal level. They ask people questions about themselves and listen to understand, not only listening to reply. The connection is genuine, as is the interest.
Recognize the difference between fact and opinion.Irresistible people incorporate grace and poise when handling controversial topics and touchy subjects. They clearly distinguish between their opinion and facts. Though someone may express a different opinion, irresistible people do not condescend or discount the intelligence of others when disparities emerge.
Be authentic. People who make us feel comfortable are themselves at all times. Their views, values, and virtues are constant. This quality creates trust, comfort, and reliability in relationships. When someone is untrustworthy or fake, being in their company is unpleasant.
Smile. Smiling, as well as displaying approachable body language, create a congenial environment to relate. People naturally mirror the body language of the person they’re talking to. Create a welcoming posture and put effort into making other people happy. Hold the door, share laughter, pay a compliment, smile at a stranger… not only will this improve another’s mood, the karma it yields is worth it!
Find reasons to love life. Optimism is a key to being irresistible. Learning to love the little things in life is a key ingredient. Irresistible people are never bored, because they see life as an amazing adventure and approach it with a joy that other people want to be a part of. This approach includes viewing problems as small obstacles that can be overcome. When things go wrong, they remind themselves that a bad day is just one day, and they keep hope that tomorrow or next week or next month will be better.
Try to integrate some of these habits into your day-to-day life and take note of how your life changes when people find you irresistible!
“I have found that if you love life, life will love you back.”